Relationship predictors
personal traits don’t tend to matter much for predicting relationship satisfaction.
- browsing the apps reading profiles wont tell you much
- instead only trying the relation, seeing how they make you feel will
It’s Not Who You’re With, but the Dynamic You Have with Them
variance for both present and future relationship satisfaction were:
- Perceived partner commitment
- Appreciation
- Sexual satisfaction
- Perceived partner satisfaction
- Conflict
we evaluate our own relationship in large measure based on how we think our partner experiences it.
advice¶
Do not spend a lot of time wishing your partner was different on things like personality or education or political views. Focus, instead, on what you can do to make the dynamic between the two of you as good as it can be. That is going to mean looking for levers you can pull to make a difference (such as listening more to your partner, planning to do something you both enjoy, and being more emotionally supportive)—not waiting around for your partner to change.