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Ways to be more vulnerable

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🔓 Ways to Be More Vulnerable

1. Share When You’re Not “Fine”

  • Instead of “yeah, things are good,” say something more real:
    • “Honestly, I’ve been a bit worried about work lately.”
    • “I’ve felt kind of disconnected this week — not sure why.”
      This opens a window for real talk, and shows you’re not just performing “I’m doing fine” mode.

2. Talk About What You’re Struggling With

  • Emotional topics: “I’m trying to figure out what I want more of in friendships.”
  • Life stuff: “I’m not sure what direction my job is heading in.”
  • Inner stuff: “I’ve been realizing I find it hard to ask for help.”

3. Say What You Appreciate

  • “I always feel calm when I hang out with you.”
  • “You’re one of the few people I feel really seen by.”
  • “I’ve noticed I open up more easily when I talk to you.”
    That kind of praise is rare and powerful. It makes people feel safe, and often invites them to open up too.

4. Admit to Awkwardness or Doubt

  • “I wanted to ask you something, but I feel a bit silly even bringing it up.”
  • “I feel a bit nervous being the one to initiate all the time — I hope it’s not too much.”
    It humanizes you and makes the interaction more real.

5. Ask Questions That Invite Emotion

Try skipping small talk with:
- “What’s something you’ve been thinking about a lot lately?”
- “What’s been the hardest part of your week?”
- “What’s something you wish more people asked you?”

6. Let People in on Your Inner World

  • Share something you’re excited about and why it matters to you.
  • Talk about a core value or belief (e.g. “I’ve been thinking a lot about how I want to feel more connected to people.”)
  • Open up about your past — childhood, old friendships, turning points.

7. Name the Connection

  • “I really enjoy talking like this.”
  • “I’d like to be closer friends if that feels right for you.”
  • “It’s rare to have this kind of conversation.”
    It can feel cheesy, but it’s also honest and creates space for more.

💡 Bonus Vulnerability Prompts (Pick & Choose)

You can use these as conversation starters or journal prompts too:
- “One thing I’ve been carrying lately is…”
- “Something I wish people knew about me is…”
- “A story I don’t usually tell…”
- “I’m afraid people will think I’m ___ if I show ___.”
- “I’ve been trying to be more ___ in my relationships.”